Trusting Your Universe: Embracing Reality and Personal Growth
I was once told the idea I’m about to share with you in much fewer words in a much larger way. That is, the seed that was planted at the time of the idea’s inception has produced a multitude of plant life with which one measure of orientation can be unveiled whilst still more lies here deep underneath the soil. Forever in my mind, I suppose, that is the case.
The idea speaks to many, many points one of which is that of the ability of other people to hold on to who they think you are. The uncanny ability of others to place you in a box in there mind as “X” or “Y” kind of a person but beyond that, I’d like to draw on a separate understanding altogether which may or may not pour with it into this particular understanding some lifeblood. You see, in others’ minds, they have created an inner, so to speak, 3-D model of who you are … that is, not who you actually are but who they think you are. Their inner 3-D representation of you captures with it your personality when you're with them, their ideas about you when you are not with them, and even things as tangible to them as your smell and the sound of your voice.
Here’s the kicker … sometimes, when the people in your life and you separate from one another, the impression you left on them, the feelings you gave them, the choices you made at that time ... all these things forever gives way to coloring how they take anything else you say in. Now, what I’m really saying is that you are in those moments forever in their mind as the person they think you are. To them, you will always be that person. No matter how much you grow. No matter how much you change. No matter how much you evolve, no matter, no matter, no matter ... that person will never be able to see the person you have truly become and are becoming and will have become as a result of the journey you are continuing to travel on now, especially as that may or may not be without them in the picture. The person who they remember is in their mind always who you will be will never change because of anything that happened in that moment.
On the other side of the coin, I have a hard truth for you ... you are doing the same thing to other people. You in your mind have 3-D renderings, again so to speak, of everyone in your life from people you know face to face to people you meet through social media to people you've only spoken to on the phone … and with that comes the realization that you are holding in your mind them as “X” kind of person or “Y” kind of person perhaps never holding space for them to really flower in to all that’s possible for them, isn’t yet possible for them, and may never be possible for them until they have the right soil for that transformation to take place now.
One final note, and this is a little bit outside the scope ... don’t waste time trying to change those people’s minds about you that forever will see you in a certain light. Just, in my mind at least, let them hold onto that thought of who they think you are as long as you simply and truthfully allow yourself to let go of them naturally enabling you space in your life now for people who are willing now to give you the fresh start you may or may not need to become the kind of person who can have the kind of lifestyle you choose for yourself ... in this life or the next.
