Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies: Key Aspects of Sexual Philosophy
The conversation that's about to happen might rub some people, no pun intended, the wrong way. If it does, good ... maybe that will give you the courage to interact with me on my socials! LOL now, I want to talk about your sexual philosophy for a moment. First of all, what is a sexual philosophy. Do we even have one of those? What does it consist of? What are the building blocks of your sexual philosophy? All great questions - not where I’m going with this post.
What I really want to talk about right now are these ideas of the masculine and the feminine. Masculinity and Femininity. What’s the difference? How do they respond to one another? What’s it mean to become or be a masculine man. Truth be told, I’ve learned all I know about Masculinity from men that have come before me. Early in life, I learned what Masculinity is NOT (or at the very least what I don't want mine to be) ... later in life, I got real lucky and learned a thing or two about what it is and or can be and how it can serve you.
Now, you see, I want to point something out right out of the gate about what Masculinity is not. It is NOT, in my mind, singular. What am I saying with that … there is no one fundamental masculine energy. There are Masculinities. Even spellcheck says I'm spelling Masculinities wrong because in this monotheistic culture of today's world, there can be only one. Period full stop.
However, with Masculinities, I'm speaking to cultures like the Greeks who had more than one god all of which were distinct from one another with their own place of the universe they held dominion over. That is, you have variations of energy that point to different aspects of men and ... the shadows of these men and energies that ultimate show you a darker side of what masculinity is and can be. Now, that’s all fine and dandy but what I want to draw on next is the, in my mind, FACT that Femininity works in the same way. There is a multiplicity of energies that come straight through womanhood just as much as manhood.
What I’m really getting down to the nitty gritty with is the idea in your sexual philosophy that ultimately says whether there is the masculine or a masculine, i.e.: are there more than one. There is as far as I can tell. One of the ways we can talk about this is to examine archetypes or archetypal energy as this doesn't speak to an idea as contrary to popular belief as there being more than one god as much as it speaks to areas of the brain that get lit up at different times and through different experiences. You have men like Dr. Robert Moore, may he rest in peace, who talk about how men have basically 4 fundamental energies that need to be balanced in a man’s life so he can become a whole-form human being. I for one have gone crazy on some of these energies on a number of occasions ... I wish I could say I'm better now :P
Now, anyways I’d argue these are all well and good but for a man in today’s societies to not only survive but to thrive, you’re going to need more than those 4. But again, not where I’m going with this. Let's talk about how do these energies of the Masculine and the Feminine respond to one another. I’d argue, at the base functional level they compliment one another. That is they allow the other to be more full in their presence. Now, one of my mentors in this realm speaks to the idea that the more masculine a man is, the more feminine energy that man needs around him. It balances him and the energies within. Which brings me to the topic of conversation I naturally and intuitively enjoy getting to invite in now.
A polygamous men, as you may have been led to believe, is not with one woman not because she’s not enough but because that particular man has a different kind of masculine energy than a man who has dedicated his life to one woman. Neither is wrong IMO. How he operates and moves through the world, let's call that his innate resources, require in his life he bring about a different relationship than the whole of society wants or says it right. But, all in all, I'm not saying monogamy is good or bad or polygamy or is this or that, that's not my argument. I want to go deeper.
A woman could ask, does that mean my femininity is not enough for him? I would argue maybe. I don’t know your relationship and your dynamics. I’m only speaking to my own internal sexual philosophy and when it comes to regardless if you are monogamous or non-monogamous, if a particular man has a ton of women around him that he knows on a personal level that trust that man and appreciate having that man in their life and want that man to stay there, they have to recognize that the more feminine she is being, just as well, the more masculine of a partner or partners she needs and that goes both ways.
It’s a double edged sword knowing that and to know that full well means bringing to the surface your own desire for what the energies in you need and not to lead others into territory they aren’t ready for. In other words, don’t lie about what you want and need - if a woman wants something you just can't deliver, let her go and hold space in your life for someone who's a better fit.
