Beyond the Pond: Discovering Richer Options for Love and Connection

I’m going to make this short and sweet because I want to cut right to the chase. Here’s the bottom line: In today’s world, if you don’t tell someone you like them, you take away their chance of getting to know you as well as show them you’re a chump instead of a champ because you aren’t going after what you want in life. But if you do tell them, who’s to say you’re not a simp? That’s where the mind goes when coming onto certain people in certain parts of the world. SIMP. What am I getting at? This social media infested existence you and I live in today projects the idea of scarcity around sex with women for the majority of men and abundance for sex with the majority of men around women.

So, what do you do if that’s the world you grew up in? As a man, do you just continue to take whatever the universe is willing to offer you, happy to get whatever is coming to you like a dog waiting at the door for his owner knowing he’ll get a treat if he’s a good boy? Or do you find ways to get what you really want and not be limited by the decisions the Universe makes for you at large … all because you can’t decide for yourself.

If the, let’s take it further, selection you have to choose from thinks you’re a simp because you like them, I’m going to put it simply … I’d argue you may or may not be fishing in the wrong pond. Here’s the kicker. Your mind is too small or at least your thinking is so. On a grander scale, more options open up to you. You might just need, behind door number 1, to find a new location where liking someone leads to a better outcome if no matter what you do in “this” one doesn’t ever get you a different result because with doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result being the definition of insanity, it’s possible you can’t get anything different from the universe you exist in if you always keep looping back through the same sequence of patterns that you always do and have always done that never get you anything different and in some cases anything at all.

Now, there’s a second option but I’ll get to that. Like I just said, you can travel to a new location where instead of them thinking you’re a simp because you’ve spoken up about your desire, the people who have been showing up until aren’t in this new space at all because the new users’ thinking that are showing up have moved outside of that entirely. That is, it’s not that you’re a simp, it’s that you are a man who speaks up about and for what he wants knowing also how not to get what he doesn’t and being willing to do what is necessary to ensure both of these alignments stay as in sync as humanly possible towards a common goal.

With that in mind, maybe you choose to enter a new location, travel somewhere else, explore new territory, excited to see what’s possible knowing you are opening yourself up to new and plentiful chances that come about as a means of being somewhere you are not yet. In short, you will have given yourself access to resources and environments that have always been more likely to produce the kinds of outcomes you want and less likely to produce the kinds of outcomes you don’t. That in a nutshell is the first option. You can find the kinds of people that feel lucky that you’re choosing them. And they really are lucky.

Beyond that, a separate option exists; maybe instead of changing the location of where you fish, you instead change the bait that you’re fishing with. Maybe you want to attract, even in the same pond you’ve already been fishing in for years, different and new fish you never even knew was there in the first place. If you can do that, it’s possible you don’t ever even have to go anywhere else as long as inside where you currently fish already are the bountiful and healthful opportunities you intend to jump on, so to speak. In other words, you do have more than one option. Take advantage of them.